This page and it's accompanying video, is aimed at men who are dating women. The body language described is therefore enacted by the female in the dating or adult party situation and is for the male to observe and respond to.
The six most frequently occurring sexual body language gestures associated with casual sex dating are:
We will take a more detailed look at each of them in turn and provide some tips about how a male can recognize and respond to them when he is meeting a female or swinger couple on an adult date or at an adult party.
Eye Contact is so obviously an important part of sexual body language that you might think that no one needs to be told
how to observe it or respond to it. In actual fact, a lot of men do not observe it because of their own anxiety about
giving and maintaining eye contact. In other words, they don't see it because they daren't look for it!
The other problem men have with eye contact is that they expect women to be making encouraging eye contact with them right
from the outset of any date. But even in casual sex dating, meetings between strangers need a little time to warm up and eye
contact may not be occurring very much during the first few moments.
So don’t get hung up about isolated periods where eye contact
is not maintained. It would be a very odd person who maintained eye contact for the full duration of a conversation!
Its a different matter when there is a complete absence of eye contact for a long period of time. That really would be a signal
for you to bring the date to a premature conclusion.
Examples of female preening are things like; brushing her hair with her hand, twirling bits of hair, straightening her skirt,
or flicking away imaginary specks of dust from her clothing and so on. Preening is sexual body language saying; 'I want to look good for you' and it is used by men as
well as women.
As a man, you need sure you are constantly on the outlook for female preening gestures during a date. But
it is important not to jump the gun when you observe just the odd one. The isolated gesture here and there might mean nothing.
So be patient and wait until you have observed a set of them, or until they are being performed along with some of the other
sexual body language gestures, before you accept them as confirmation of sexual intent. It is then you must to respond.
You might do this by touching her or by responding verbally with some flirtatious comment or question, aimed at moving things to the next level.
We describe sexual body language as "Enacting" when a gesture is symbolically mimicking a sexual activity. An example you will
frequently come across when adult dating is women stroking their arms or legs. Her subconscious message is; 'This is how I would like you
to stroke me'.
Women are also enacting when they lick their lips and leave their mouths open. Another common example is the use of an object, such as a
wine glass being stroked in a suggestive way.
As with preening, it’s a set of gestures or gestures used in conjunction with other sexual body language that you should to be looking for
as your cue to respond. But as soon as you see that there is a confirmatory pattern, respond straight away in the manner described above.
Displaying is about revealing parts of the body or highlighting them in some way. A woman might expose more of her thigh,
lean back with arms raised to expose her armpits, thrust out her breasts, or wiggle her bottom.
These areas are all known as key
display areas. Remember that a one-off incident might be accidental. Look out for repeat displays or displaying that is combined with
other gestures. It is this that provides the confirmation for you to respond either verbally, physically or both.
When your dating partner leans towards you, they are signifying that they want to get closer to you. You need to respond by testing that this is really the intent. The way to test is quite simply by leaning towards them. If she remains leaning towards you or better still, leans even closer, she is confirming that being closer is what she wanted. If however, she immediately withdraws by leaning away, the gesture was probably unintended.
A classic example of a female pointing gesture - used in just about every romantic drama ever made - is the the extended leg and foot manoeuvre. However, pointing can be much more subtle than this, with an arm, finger, knee or head being used in different ways. When pointing is confirmed as being sexually motivated by it's repetition or combination with other signals, it is giving out a message that the woman wants to move in the direction the man is leading her. Respond by doing just that!
For more advice and help on this subject, you can watch our video: "Adult Dating Body Language"